Close to a Distance
From a distance, things don’t seem as big as they really are. I was riding through the mountains and I saw some trees in a distance compared to the ones near the road. For some reason I thought “wow, that’s really how things are when we are or are not in relationship with someone.”
The closer we are with a person, the more likely their issues tend to suck us in or consume us. However the more distant we are, the less we view their problems as a “big deal” or even know there are problems at all.
Proximity determines the depth of a relationship.
Sometimes it may be healthier to distance yourself from people because you may become too involved in their issues. While other times, you may need to lean in a little to help them, by first getting an understanding of what they may be going through. It’s a constant push and pull my friends. Be mindful of the proximity of your relationships and place people accordingly.
Did I also mention proximity can change seasonally? 🙃
Apart of life is growing, as you already know. Give yourself permission to adjust people in your life as needed without feeling guilty. It’s ok friend. Pray for discernment first and foremost, and make adjustments as needed. If someone you choose distance from feels it’s personal, tell them it is. You personally have to make adjustments to your personal relationship with them to best maneuver through your current season.
It’s not your expectation that they have 100% over their problems, but you know your capacity. Honestly, if they are a healthy relationship for you, there will be an understanding. Apart of growing with someone means remaining flexible. Growing pains are a real thing and you won’t always be on the same page. If you trust a person’s heart and intentions for what they say they are, great perspective carries you through 90% of those season shifts. I say 90% because it’s hard to say 100% without my own bias lol.
Growth looks different for all of us. Stop being so harsh on other people because it doesn’t look like your process and journey. (I’m talking to myself as well.) I am in a season of unlearning ALOT and in that process, I have to address my mentality and view point on other people’s problems as well as working through my own.
Today, just sit a process this thought to evaluate your current season of life and those around you.
The mocker seeks wisdom and finds none, but knowledge comes easily to the discerning
-Proverbs 14:6
Pray friend. Focus friend. But always move in love friend.
